Leave your loved ones prepared to lose you

I recently spent a very enjoyable afternoon at The Mere Brook House, an award-winning venue on the edge of the beautiful and picturesque village of Thornton Hough.  I can, without doubt, recommend their flapjacks and tiffin!

I was there was to deliver a seminar in conjunction with KER Consulting and Vantage Law.  Entitled “Taking Control of Your Affairs”, the seminar focused on preparing your family for something that is always a difficult subject to broach: your death.

We covered estate planning, wills, lasting powers of attorney and funeral ceremonies.  In brief, “Leave Your Loved Ones Prepared to Lose You”.

At the time of your death, it will be helpful and reassuring to your loved ones to know where your will is.  Ideally, you will have also provided them with a Letter of Wishes and the details of any insurance policies you have taken.  Having all of these to hand will save your loved ones from additional stress at this difficult time, as well as avoiding any unnecessary implication to finances.

My part of the seminar included a “Fact or Fiction?” section about funerals.

Did you know:

  • that there are no laws governing funerals?
  • that you can actually bury your loved one on your own land? However, it may reduce the price of your house and you need to check if there is a covenant on the land.
  • that you don’t actually have to have a funeral for your loved one?

In my view, a funeral helps us move from life before a loved one’s death to life after their death.  A funeral is a public, traditional and symbolic means of expressing our beliefs, thoughts and feelings about the death of someone we love.  A funeral may also help us find meaning and purpose in our continued living, even in the face of our loss.

That is why a well-written, personalised service that paints a true picture of the person we have lost is so very important.  A service delivered with warmth and feeling by someone such as a Celebrant, who has taken the time to sit with a family, sometimes for hours, finding out about the person they have lost, can make all the difference to how the family comes to terms with their loved one’s death.

A Celebrant can help with choosing the right music, a reading or a poem; they can even assist in helping a family member write their own personal eulogy.

As a Civil Celebrant, not a Humanist, a hymn, a religious reading or a prayer can be included in the funeral service. Using a Celebrant gives you and your family choices to ensure the service is perfect.