Everyone has heard of a wedding horror story at some point in their lives. With numerous tasks to complete and infinite family members to please, couples have been known to call it a day and throw in the towel just moments before the big day.
And we’re not surprised, the tendency to get lost in the madness and lose sight of what’s really important is easily done. This is exhibited in Holmes and Raye’s ‘top 10 most stressful events’ rundown whereby ‘getting married’ takes 7th place.
Jeanette’s mission is to relieve such stresses, through her bespoke civil ceremonies. Re-channelling the bride and groom’s energies on what is truly important, Jeanette delivers a range of intimate services that are customisable, personal and truly unique.
Shed the wedding chaos
Mindfulness has made it into popular culture, with the majority of 21st century occupants wanting to adopt more meaningful experiences and withdraw from situations that are likely to trigger pressure or incur emotional strain.
We believe that a similar outlook should be applied to “the biggest day of your life”; your wedding day.
By removing the trivial stresses, couples can effectively focus their energies on what truly matters, their love for one another. And what better way to emphasise your commitment to one another, than through a meaningful ceremony.
A ceremony can be held in any location, include the things you want, can be a simple affair with just the two of you exchanging your vows or with the ones you love and care about in attendance. It is after all your day and you should have it your way.
It’s the chance for both participants to celebrate their eternal commitment to each other, through a service that is tailored entirely to them.
The ceremony can be a minimal affair, whereby the vows are the main focus, or can be given a unique twist, it’s entirely dependent on personal preference.
See below for the types of intimate, meaningful but non-religious ceremonies that Jeanette can incorporate into your wedding ceremony.
Unity candle ceremony
A unity candle ceremony is a minimal service that features three taper candles only. Although simplistic in substance, the ceremony is abundant in symbolic meaning.
The service begins with two taper candles being lit by the bride and groom’s mothers or other significant family members. This represents the two distinct families who are involved in the relationship.
A third candle is then lit by the bride and groom using their family’s outer candles. This conveys the mergence of both families and the unity of both bride and groom.
The service beautifully embodies the coming together of both parties. Where one candle exists for both families, and one signifies the making of a newly formed family. It also represents the couples’ wedlock and their commitment to each other.
The candles are simply left to burn out, to portray the couples’ everlasting marriage and the family’s eternal unification.
Before, during or after the vows, a couple can partake in an ancient Celtic ritual; hand fasting (the historical term for ‘wedding’).
This traditional ceremony physically binds bride and groom together with ribbon to symbolise their union and to literally depict them ‘tying the knot’.
The ceremony can be kept traditional or can be adopted to personal taste, by simply incorporating different coloured ribbon. Each ribbon colour has its own meaning and thus couples tend to go with three or four, to signify multiple connotations.
Jeanette is able to provide creative input on ways in which couples can further adapt the hand fasting ceremony such as recommending different materials other than ribbon, or by assisting with relevant hand fasting vows.
The hand fasting ceremony can be conducted as a separate event, or included within a traditional wedding ceremony.
This was traditionally an outdoor ceremony mainly used for those brides and grooms marrying on a beach using the sand around them however the ceremony can take place anywhere using different coloured sands and it is a great way for blended families to become one.
The service most commonly occurs after the ring exchange and vows, but can be held at any time and carried out as a separate ritual.
Similar to a unity candle ceremony, the focus is to metaphorically represent the intertwining of two separate families and the end-result of one. Different colour sand can be used to visibly represent this, or regular sand, depending on personal choice.
Firstly the groom starts by pouring his sand into a vase, of which is followed by the bride and then family members – the process is particularly fun for children, and is a great way to involve them. Family members can use contrasting sand colours so that it is obvious which sand contribution belongs to who. The top layer of sand is all the single colours blended together.
The sand display can take pride of place at home, serving as a memento that will last forever, similar to the couples’ eternal pledge.
Just as those grains of sand can no longer be separated neither can the bride and groom and the family who contributed to the ceremony.
Jeanette understands the importance of delivering a memorable ceremony that holds meaning and that involves those closest. Providing a non-religious and non-legal alternative to couples, her award-winning ceremonies cater to everyone, offer something different and are truly transcending.
Jeanette’s ceremonies are stripped of the typical wedding frenzy and help to shift the focus on the bride and groom as opposed to the table toppers.