The passing of a loved one can be a turbulent time, especially if they have left no instructions or wishes regarding their funeral.
Here I have put together a list of things to consider which may make this trying time a little bit easier:
Finding the Right Funeral Director
Finding the right funeral director can be an overwhelming experience. With the vast amount of professionals out there it can seem very daunting.
Here are a few things that may help you come to a decision if this is the direction you choose to go.
- Recommendations – Ask your friends and family who they have used in the past and what their experiences were like. Word of mouth is an extremely powerful tool and that way you get the peace of mind that the funeral director will treat your loved one with dignity and respect.
- Read the reviews – Get online and have a look at some of the reviews, learn who goes above and beyond for their clients. That is the type of funeral director you want.
- Quotations – Once you have narrowed down your choices, ask the companies to provide you with an itemised quote so that you can compare them.
The DIY Option
You don’t have to use a funeral director, there is a do-it-yourself option. The great thing about DIY funerals is that they can be less expensive than using a funeral director. They can also be more private and intimate.
If you are considering a DIY funeral you will have to contact your local council if want to make arrangements for your loved one to be laid to rest in a local cemetery or cremated.
Burial or Cremation
There are several options to consider here, and all can be tailored for you and loved one. It is worth asking if there is a family plot. Or if there was a particular place your loved one enjoyed, that you can consider scattering their ashes in. Questions like these will help you to make the decision regarding your loved one’s final resting place.
On a practical level if you are using a Funeral Director, they can help give you the relevant options and choose the best way forward.
With David Bowie setting the trend in 2016, the industry has seen a surge in no-fuss, direct cremations. This can be a great option if finances are tight. A separate ceremony can be held before or after the cremation to celebrate the life of your loved one if you so desire.
With a burial there are several options available to you including:
- Church Graveyard (You have to receive the minister’s permission if someone else officiates e.g. a celebrant)
- Public Cemetery such as Landican (Religious or non-religious ceremonies can be carried out prior to burial or at the graveside)
- Privately Owned Land (e.g. your garden) However this requires careful consideration and a discussion with the Local Authority.
- Natural/Woodland Burial – Families have recently been choosing a natural space for their loved ones final resting place. There are dedicated areas that focus on the wellbeing of nature and are great for the environmentally conscious.
No matter what you choose a civil celebrant can help support you and guide you in making the best decisions for you and your loved one. Together you can create a person and unique ceremony which will do them proud.
